My experience in cyberspace is one of the most common mistakes committed online. Before I don’t really know how to talk to people online specially when chatting unlike email where I can actually check what I have written down. So before when chatting my replies was brief and I feel that they understand what I am saying. But then they didn’t I don’t show emotions before so I usually get misinterpreted by others and sadly we get into an argument and sadly I usually lose because it is hard for me to explain myself in cyberspace not to mention they type faster than I can. Speaking of typing I still am a slow typer compare to my friends and this is quite a disability when it comes to online chatting this makes for you hard to reply to their message and again makes them misinterpret you even more.
When talking to people I try my best to be as clear and simple as possible and now I started using emoticons to show what I’m really feel. Before I was talking to a friend then I started throwing things at her but it was only a joke then she started getting angry and she started throwing offensive messages at me. I wondered why I feel that I’m not really doing anything wrong for her to say those hurtful words. So then I asked her why and she wouldn’t tell me because she was still furious. So I checked if I said anything wrong. I went through my archives I found that what I was saying was actually offensive because I showed no feelings and it was actually easily misinterpreted even I would thing if this was sent to me I would get irritated. So I apologized and promise to be more careful of my words and be a lot clearer about my expressions.
So when chatting always remember to keep in mind that you are not talking face to face. Remember that your expressions are not seen so try to show it as best as you can. Use emoticons to make it clearer. Try to keep it simple but understandable. Try your best to understand what the person is saying before replying because you may also be a victim of this misunderstanding that is happening over the net.